to be known

More than 750 millions regular users? Are you serious Facebook? What makes you so special? Why am I chronically checking it throughout the day? Why do we spend so much time and effort adding photos, posting, commenting, "liking" and everything else there is to do on this phenomenon?

Most likely, when future generations study our current culture Facebook will be a highlight of our age. When you think about it, it doesn't really make sense...or does it? Facebook creates an empty box...and the masses flock to spend hours populating it with content and updating it day after day creating one of the biggest pipelines for all things information. The concept is sometimes referred to as HTML 2.0. HTML 2.0 websites are frameworks created by web developers and users create and insert the content.

Somehow, Facebook has figured out how to get 23 hours a year from the average person for free...yes that's you. So what is driving this anomaly? I once read that society has created its culture around two things for generations and generations. 1. The desire to belong and 2. The desire to be significant. The simple fact is, Facebook hits these two things with chilling accuracy. Facebook ultimately is, an online tool for us to accomplish these two things.

Think about it, we use Facebook to publish our "stories" our lives to the masses. We send friend requests and create our "group." The acceptance of a friend request is someone saying "yes, I know you and you are part of my group." Then, we post photos and daily updates and other people "like" them and comment on them. Essentially telling us that "hey, I read that and I like it, I think your story is significant."

This concept taps into this deep desire we all have to be known. We want to scream to the world that we're different and unique. We try all the safe methods, dozens of unique shoes and clothes. The music we associate with. The way we talk. The blogs we write ;) We search high and low to find a safe way to be different...all the while staying safely within the box we call culture. Media screams at us to be "expressive"...so long as it falls within the guidelines of what is cool.

The burdens of what is acceptable and "hip" get heavier and heavier the older I get. Something inside me screams to leap into the unknown and discover who I really am and live it. I recently went to a music concert and lets just say I got really into the beats. In result I had people ask me if they could get some of my Ecstasy...I guess that's what I look like when my inhibitions are gone. I hate how society will box us up into pre-determined "people" based on how we express ourselves. When we see someone openly expressing what they feel we often attribute it to some drastic circumstance or drug.

Maybe someday I will gain the courage to say the true words on my heart and maybe someday I will learn how to tell the real story of my life...until then I'll attempt to reveal snippets in discreet corners and at dark concerts.

Blue Like Jazz Excerpt

Recently I started wondering if we could actually change the world. I mean, of course we could - we could change our buying habits, elect socially conscious representatives and that sort of thing, but I honestly don't believe we will be solving the greater human conflict with our efforts. The problem is not a certain type of legislation or even a certain politician; the problem is the same that it has always been.

I am the problem.

I think every conscious person, every person who is awake to the functioning principles within his reality, has a moment where he stops blaming the problems in the world on group think, on humanity and authority, and starts to face himself. I hate this more than anything. This is the hardest principle within Christian spirituality for me to deal with. The problem is not out there; the problem is the needy beast of a thing that lives in my chest. More than my questions about the efficacy of social action were my questions about my own motives. Do I want social justice for the oppressed, or do I just want to be known as a socially active person?

I spend 95% of my time thinking about myself anyway. I don't have to watch the evening news to see that the world is bad, I only have to look at myself. I'm not brow-beating myself here; I am only saying that true change, true life-giving, God-honoring change would have to start with the individual.

Six billion people live in this world, and I can only muster thoughts for one.

Me.

--Donald Miller "Blue Like Jazz"

shiver

What is it about the human experience that causes people to become so connected? We share simple words and go to some places together, yet as I write that I myself get defensive and say "well, it's more than that!" Somehow going through life next to someone connects us on a deeper level. Somehow living life connects all of humanity. I reminisce back to old relationships and to this day I can still feel the loss of broken relationships. We possess some unique and mystical ability to connect to one another in a beautiful and deep way. Life has its way of often betraying that and ripping it to pieces. Even if it's what we want and we know its right...it somehow never feels good. You always seem to feel as if that person still possess a physical piece of your heart! Some might say that's the persons fault for not guarding their heart. I think it doesn't matter -- if you ever go through some of life with a friend and you lose that it's as if they have stolen some parts of your memory and ran off.

What a fragile world we live in, filled with people scarred from past losses and scared of future ones. We tip toe around and cross our fingers in the anticipation of it happening again. It controls the way we talk, the people we see, the words we use. To what great heights I would go to avoid a lost friend, to avoid a broken heart. The disasters of the past haunt me in my daydreams and the unknowable future stares me in the face as a subtle fear takes over.

People and relationships are a precious thing. The efforts and behaviors of the world show that our desire to be loved and to love drive our every risk. Some nights I sit and watch the sky and think to myself "the pain, the joy, the sorrow, the exhilaration of all this is the best story ever." I find myself wishing for my life to be pulled from the pages of an epic fiction novel. The only this comes true is for me to jump off the edge and engage in this world around me. The only way is to embrace those hard times and set my eyes on those good times. I've spent many a dark days having forgotten what this life is all about. It's not about having a hurt free life. It's about getting hurt...and then getting healed. It's about falling down only to be surrounded by a love we never thought possible. You know that feeling? The one where suddenly a shiver is sent down your spine and you feel this warmth. It's that feeling where a sunrise just isn't a sunrise--it's like you just got dropped in that movie you've always wanted to be in. Where you say to yourself "this is life, and even though it's hard...it's good." Embrace the hard times and look to the horizon and know with confidence that something amazing is waiting there...something more beautiful and good than you could ever dream up is just down the road.

An Essay From Elbert Hubbard

Whenever you go out-of-doors, draw the chin in, carry the crown of the head high, and fill the lungs to the utmost; drink in the sunshine; greet your friends with a smile, and put soul into every handclasp. Do not fear being misunderstood and do not waste a minute thinking about your enemies. Try to fix firmly in your mind what you would like to do; and then, without veering off direction, you will move straight to the goal. Keep your mind on the great and splendid things you would like to do, and then, as the days go gliding away, you will find yourself unconsciously seizing upon the opportunities that are required for the fulfillment of your desire, just as the coral insect takes from the running tide the element it needs. Picture in your mind the able, earnest, useful person you desire to be, and the thought you hold is hourly transforming you into that particular individual...Thought is supreme. Preserve a right mental attitude--the attitude of courage, frankness, and good cheer. To think rightly is to create. All things come through desire and every sincere prayer is answered. We become like that on which our hearts are fixed. Carry your chin in and the crown of your head high. We are gods in the chrysalis.